The Truth About Your 20s

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The biggest misconception about being in your 20s is that everyone knows what they are doing. I’m currently in my mid-late 20s and feel that if I had heard these talking points, my mind would have been much more at ease. So let’s get into it! After going through most of my 20s, I want to tell you what the decade looks like. 

The Truth About Your Early 20s

Depending on how quickly you had to grow up, this will vary for everyone, but here’s what my era looks like. From 17-21, I wound up partying and living my best degenerate life because of where I worked. I was young and didn’t know my boundaries, but I was learning them hard. Young people in this period are in a self-discovery phase. This is when you live up to your perception of yourself and balance school and working hours.

If you’re in this age range, I think this is the time to be experimental and to get to know yourself. Don’t fear challenging your beliefs, and say yes to opportunities. Don’t be shy about changing your career path, taking a break from school, or being yourself. In this era, it's easy to have positive feelings and feel joy because it's almost like this is the first time you are truly experiencing the world for what it is. Embrace this time, have fun and don't take anything too seriously.

The Truth About Your Mid-20s

I had a significant amount of my early years having fun. I simmered out quickly and was much calmer in my mid twenty eras than most people. The range of 22-23 was a weird in-between where half of my friends were still going out a lot, and the other half were getting married. I like to think about these two years as the awkward transitionary phases. This phase is also significant because mental health plays an important role. This is when unhealed traumas tend to surface and trigger profound changes.

Then from 25-27, is implementing all those changes and boundaries. This is the time frame where I’ve learned my limits and am now implementing them. This time frame is essential because this is the actual era of embodying who you are. This is also the most challenging part because you must create the life you want. That said, this era comes with a more realistic look at love and relationships than how I used to view them. This was the beginning of my self-healing journey that, in all honesty, will never end. 

The Truth About Your Late 20s

Right now, it becomes indisputable that you will live the life you worked for. If you are creative, like me, you will still be grinding, and that’s okay! This is when you are meant to define your career identity, and it has taken me a while to realize how much I cannot buy into the 9-5 work life. More importantly, the learning hurdles of becoming a writer and creating authentic, healing content that still connects to beauty.

Everyone has a unique career journey, so staying focused and consistent is essential. That said, don't compare and get too caught up in being too hard on yourself (a lot easier said than done), but those worries only get in the way of accomplishments. Find what works for you to create the life and work-life balance necessary for your well-being. It's easy to be hard on yourself, but I look back and realize I’m only at the beginning, so if you are in this era with me, don’t give up on what you are working towards. 

Conclusion 

When you are in your 20s, it is meant to be a scorching hot mess. You are going to make mistakes, and you are going to get your heart broken by men that you believed in. You are going to experience loss, and you are going to experience joy. You are going to experience freedom, and you are also going to realize you are your only prison as well. That is the human experience of your 20s.

It’s meant to transform you, and it’s meant to grow you. So if you are making mistakes, remember that’s supposed to happen. Odds are, it’s going to keep on happening until you learn. So remember to keep your head up and push through because life will be much calmer and more manageable with the lessons you learn from this era. 

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