Beauty Matters, Not in the Way You Think
As a society, we are raised to believe that beautiful people are better than us. Although this is a blanket statement, pretty privilege exists, and it’s essential to understand how it works. Essentially, you have beauty, and that breaks down barriers. Use it to help others- not just yourself.
Pretty Privilege
No matter what, human beings naturally judge and create opinions off what they see. Sometimes these opinions can be detrimental, but they can be taken advantage of other times. If pretty privilege doesn’t exist, then crimes like racial profiling and occupations like being a sugar baby wouldn't exist. Appearances make a difference when you are not acquainted with another person. As a woman who has experienced kinder treatment when I have makeup on versus being treated poorly without. The aesthetic is a game that every woman learns how to play.
Working With What You Got
The quote, “There is no such thing as an ugly woman, just a lazy one,” resonates with me because it’s true. To be considered pretty, in my opinion, is to be someone who knows how to amplify their natural beauty. Imperfection has beauty, and learning how to work with your insecurities can transform them into your most desirable traits. This is where self-love and confidence come from—identifying and getting comfortable with your weaknesses. It’s the process of radical acceptance and surrender of yourself.
It’s also acceptable to alter aspects of yourself, not to ‘love’ yourself more but on the logic that you believe it will create more harmony and enhance your beauty. Changing what you’ve got shouldn’t be a process that makes you love yourself more. Even if it is, why is that a problem? The only flaw is that making choices with a weak mindset can reinforce the previous mentality that you aren’t enough and potentially encourage dysmorphia. Imperfection in aesthetics makes a person look human, and I think it becomes quirks of beauty. However, I also believe in altering aesthetics to create harmony and balance. Finding the balance between both is what I believe is a healthy place to be.
The Power of Embracing Yourself
Getting comfortable with your flaws also means that when others bring them up or try to use them against you, it holds no weight. It also allows others to feel your acceptance of your flaws and feel inspired. If people keep changing their flaws to conform to standards, how do we expect to change them? On the other hand, changing your appearance to create balance and harmony is also ok and shouldn’t be penalized either. The goal is to look like you but in your best version. Regardless of what that choice is regarding making an altercation – any judgment on those choices is just a projection of restricting beliefs.
Conclusion
No one looks perfect, but creating harmony and balance in your aesthetic looks better than perfect. The feeling of wanting to fit into an aesthetic is relatable, but not fitting in and doing an excellent job at it is better. At this point, people are bored of perfection and a predictable aesthetic. Please find comfort in your ugly and use it as your power. Create flow and harmony in your aesthetic and use it to build a world you are happy with. Take advantage of pretty privilege and become what you wish you could have had.
